By Ava McCormick
As sad as it is there are limitless numbers of child abuse survivor stories that can be shared world wide. Hearing them, especially as a first hand account, can be extremely difficult. In each individual story there is something of value to be learned. The ability to rise above such treatment often inspires others to work on their own healing. Children have limited physical and emotional defenses. There were many scars left behind by an abusive adult, but often the ones that run the deepest are the lessons learned about self love and worth during that time.
Perhaps that is why those who have survived utterly grueling childhoods are able to find confidence and love in the world as adults. What children learn from an abusive adult is anger. Anger leads to many unpleasant things, including hate. Most children find it easier to turn that hate around on themselves. It is as though the application of negative emotion would inspire a kid to make the situation stop.
Many surviving adults have spent some time losing their way in order to lose their memories. The available substances that are tried never work. Eventually the now grown victim runs out of road and must turn back. The emotional journey to return is littered with those memories that were never forgotten. They just wanted to be resting in peace.
Many adult victims of abusive childhoods do wonder why the adult in their life did this horrible thing to them. It can be impossible to say. You are not likely to find the typical cycle. Sexually abused abusers do not use sexual power but instead will use physical means of dishing out their anger.
Some people never learned they have to love themselves in order to love another. There is an obvious need to control someone, and the willingness to use the means to get that impression across. Children are less likely to be compliant individuals under such circumstances. They are the unfortunate subject of angry outbursts basically because they are children.
Anyone who has been able to survive a childhood like this is an inspiration to others. The time it takes to recover and turn into a loving and kind adult varies from one victim to another. Sharing the accounts of the situations helps others find closure. Talking about it at all can be highly traumatic for those who have lived it, but then the cleansing comes and the healing begins.
At some point, the surviving adult has to figure out how to move on and be a productive member of society. The past is already sealed, and mentally living in it does not recreate it. Many children grew up in such environments that they did not even realize that what was happening was wrong. Realizing this as an adult is often like living it over again through victimized eyes. This is why moving forward and living in the present can be so difficult.
By sharing child abuse survivor stories everyone gets a chance to bring some healing into their life. There can be moments where an abusive adult exposes their motivations, but for the majority the idea of an excuse does not warrant any attention. Supportive communities can be built the recovery process.
Perhaps that is why those who have survived utterly grueling childhoods are able to find confidence and love in the world as adults. What children learn from an abusive adult is anger. Anger leads to many unpleasant things, including hate. Most children find it easier to turn that hate around on themselves. It is as though the application of negative emotion would inspire a kid to make the situation stop.
Many surviving adults have spent some time losing their way in order to lose their memories. The available substances that are tried never work. Eventually the now grown victim runs out of road and must turn back. The emotional journey to return is littered with those memories that were never forgotten. They just wanted to be resting in peace.
Many adult victims of abusive childhoods do wonder why the adult in their life did this horrible thing to them. It can be impossible to say. You are not likely to find the typical cycle. Sexually abused abusers do not use sexual power but instead will use physical means of dishing out their anger.
Some people never learned they have to love themselves in order to love another. There is an obvious need to control someone, and the willingness to use the means to get that impression across. Children are less likely to be compliant individuals under such circumstances. They are the unfortunate subject of angry outbursts basically because they are children.
Anyone who has been able to survive a childhood like this is an inspiration to others. The time it takes to recover and turn into a loving and kind adult varies from one victim to another. Sharing the accounts of the situations helps others find closure. Talking about it at all can be highly traumatic for those who have lived it, but then the cleansing comes and the healing begins.
At some point, the surviving adult has to figure out how to move on and be a productive member of society. The past is already sealed, and mentally living in it does not recreate it. Many children grew up in such environments that they did not even realize that what was happening was wrong. Realizing this as an adult is often like living it over again through victimized eyes. This is why moving forward and living in the present can be so difficult.
By sharing child abuse survivor stories everyone gets a chance to bring some healing into their life. There can be moments where an abusive adult exposes their motivations, but for the majority the idea of an excuse does not warrant any attention. Supportive communities can be built the recovery process.
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